I stopped doing traditional coaching when I realized I was setting people up to fail.
It was because we never addressed the real problem, and not because the strategies were bad.

Here’s what I mean:
I’d give clients action plans. We’d have accountability. Weekly reviews.
They’d make progress for weeks, sometimes months.
Then I’d see them again six months later with the same problem.
Different circumstances. Same pattern.

Here’s what I realized:
We were changing behavior without changing mindset.
Your mindset is the lens through which you interpret everything.

Two people lose a job:
One thinks, “I’m not good enough.”
Another thinks, “Time to find something better aligned.”
Same situation. Alternative lens. Completely different next chapter.

The crux:
You can have the perfect action plan, but if your lens is broken, you’ll sabotage it.
→ In relationships: “People always leave” becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You test them until they actually do
→ In health: “My body doesn’t change” makes you quit every program after two weeks of “no results”
→ In career: You ask for opportunities yet hear “I’m not qualified” whispered underneath. So you accept less every time
→ In money: “I’m bad with this” turns through months of unopened statements and mystery charges

The action plan doesn’t matter if the interpretation system is working against you.

So I changed my whole approach. Now I start with the lens.
We identify the default mindset. We test whether it’s actually true. We practice choosing an interpretation that serves you better.
THEN we build the strategy.

And the difference?
The progress actually sticks.
Because we built on solid ground instead of a cracked foundation.

If you’ve ever made progress only to slip back into old patterns, this is probably why. Because the foundation was never addressed.

What’s one mindset you’re currently working to shift? (DM & I’ll respond to a few)