Nobody thinks they are the bad guy. But what if you are the one who is wrong?

Nobody thinks they are the problem.

• Not your boss.
• Not your team.
• Not even the person who frustrated you today.

Everyone acts based on what they believe is right.

What if I told you… most conflicts are not about right vs. wrong?
They are about two people who think they are right.

They are protecting their version of the “truth”.

Your frustration? Your anger? It is often misplaced.

Before you conclude & react, try The 3Q Reframe:

Situation: Your colleague shuts down your idea in a meeting.
You feel frustrated, maybe even disrespected.

Instead of reacting immediately, ask yourself:

1.⁠ ⁠What did they think they were doing right?
→ Maybe they wanted to push their own idea forward.

2.⁠ ⁠What is their logic (even if I disagree)?
→ They believed their idea was stronger, so they fought for it.

3.⁠ ⁠What is the smartest way to respond?
→ Instead of getting defensive, say:
“I see why you are pushing for this. Let us compare both ideas and find the best solution.”

This shifts the conversation from conflict to collaboration.

It takes 60 seconds. But it saves hours of stress, broken relationships, and bad decisions.

You don’t have to agree. But if you understand, you will have the real power to control the narrative.