Stop Reading Self-Help. Start Mapping Your Loops.
Why adding more “good habits” is making your anxiety worse, and what to do instead.

You don’t need another self-help book.
You need to ask why the last ten did not change you.
On paper, you are doing everything “right”:
✅ Sleep tracker
✅ Supplements
✅ Morning routine
✅ Books on habits, stoicism, and “mental toughness”

But your chest is still tight at 2:00 AM. 
You still feel like one bad week will break everything.
This is not a lack of discipline. This is a pattern.

High performers have a unique defence mechanism: Intellectualisation.

You do not sit with your feelings. You research them.

• Stress at work? You buy another productivity book.
• Loneliness? You listen to a podcast about “high-value people.”
• Exhaustion? You optimise your diet and workout.

The self-help industry keeps growing.
Burnout and anxiety numbers keep climbing with it.

Why?
Because most self-help gives you fragments:

1. Ideas without awareness.
2. Motivation without emotional skill.
3. Habits without systems.

You end up highly optimised on the outside, and quietly empty on the inside.

In my work at IntuiWell, I see this loop again and again: 
Crisis → Spike in anxiety → New book/planner → Short-term relief → Back to the start.

What actually works looks different:

1. Map your loops (Awareness)
2. Build skills (To stay composed when it hurts)
3. Design systems (So change sticks when motivation drops)

Does the “researching your feelings” trap sound familiar to you? DM me.